Note: It is often difficult to explain the nature of what it is that I do and provide. I have found a FABULOUS book that very clearly and distinctly shares the power of Sensual Massage and Erotic Touch. All excerpts below are from the book, Erotic Massage For Healing and Pleasure, by Caffyn Jesse.

Dare To Explore and Embody Erotic Freedom

Very few people have the chance to explore the intricate technology of their bodies and feel the full range of sexual energy. Unlocking the sexual flow in the body and opening to the ecstasy of conscious arousal is healing for individuals and for our world.

Cultural prohibitions inhibit the awareness of sexual feeling. The closing down of body awareness affects virtually everyone in this culture. Our nervous system responds to stress by numbing body awareness in general and erotic feeling in particular. Personal traumas get embedded in our tissues. The muscles of the pelvic diaphragm atrophy with immobility, so they no longer stimulate the genital nerves. With layer upon layer of disavowal and disengagement, most of us are comfortably or uncomfortably numb.
As practitioners of erotic massage, we act as educators and health care providers who guide people to access the joys of full embodiment, where we live in touch with erotic energy in all its dimensions. The capacity for full embodiment expands through a matrix of body, mind, spirit and emotions. 
We carry our life histories in our bodies. Experiences, anxieties and freedoms shape gesture, posture, and access to genital feeling. Somatic practices begin with bringing awareness to sensations, breath, body expression, body boundaries and moods. We can learn to scan the body, gaining awareness of emotions and how they are felt as body sensation. We can learn ways to breathe, move and use voice and gesture that help us feel more balanced and grounded. We can gain the power to shift feelings of fear and habits of dissociation. We can witness and address self-limiting contractions, and develop more choice in our bodies and our being.


Erotic massage, offered within this framework, can guide us from embodying habit, constraint, and closure in our erotic lives. We can learn to actually live open lives of flexibility and expansion, wherein sexual energy is welcomed and cultivated as a wellspring of joy.
Coming Home To The Body
With hearts wide open, ecstasy is our natural state. And there are so many ways we block it. We block it by closing our minds with negative judgments and self-judgments, and mental chatter about what we want or fear. Our spirits get caught in clinging to ideas of what is good and right, and worries that we cannot have it or cannot measure up to it. Fear, shame, confusion and lethargy occupy our emotions. Our bodies block the ecstatic with tension that resists injury and scars that hold it. 

The deep relaxation of erotic massage allows us to experience, if only for an hour, the bliss our bodies can teach us. Relaxing through the resistances, the soul can experience a letting go. Disturbing energies can pass through us, and we can choose to keep our hearts open. We can step into focused awareness of the cascade of sensation within. The mental processes of judging, protecting and differentiating can simply stop. We feel an expanding spaciousness. We feel ourselves part of a life force that is everywhere and always. This force and this feeling cannot be grasped with the mind. Through our bodies we can have a direct experience of the Divine.
Sex is an area where so many of us feel wounded. Shame, violence, and dreary habits of sexual expression (or the absence of it) wreak havoc on our erotic well-being. There is so much untapped capacity for pleasure in our bodies and our lives. Erotic energy can nourish us physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually—whether we are with or without an “ideal partner.”

Massage therapy has the potential to lift the imprints made by abusive touch and replace them with non-abusive touch, supporting the client’s sense of self-regard, safety, empowerment and integrity. The invasion, fragmentation and powerlessness felt by a person who experiences sexual abuse finds an antidote in a therapeutic relationship of respect, consistency and care.

Note:  All excerpts above are from the book, Erotic Massage For Healing and Pleasure, by Caffyn Jesse.